Emotional Intelligence and the Servant’s Heart
Giving to others is a delicate proposition. I know we have all “given” to others in the form of time, money, or goods only to see our best efforts go awry. The money squandered, the gifts mis-used or our best efforts simply not appreciated. It seems clear that we need more wisdom as we choose gifts and how to give to others. We need to have a keen sense of self-awareness and show emotional intelligence in our choices.
Often, we need encouragement and increased motivation to begin again. I want you to mindfully consider yourself and how you want to help others. Consider your successes and missteps in your past attempts to help others. You have the self-awareness and self-regulation for emotionally intelligent choices.
Consider all you want to do and how much more you can accomplish with better choices. Know that your attempts will accomplish your goals and truly help others. Exhibit emotional intelligence (see also ‘Thinking Your Way To Success With Emotional Intelligence‘) as you plan to help overs and live out that same enhanced emotional intelligence accomplishing those plans.
Find motivation in the Tips to increase Trust in Yourself below and confidently begin again and again and you work your plan. Process feedback as you go and refine your plans. Find milestones along your journey for reflection and note how important being emotionally intelligent has become in your life.
Tips to Increase Trust in Yourself
You may have a difficult time trusting yourself. Don’t despair. You are not alone. It is something that many people experience and finds difficult to overcome. When you lose trust in others, you start to lose trust in yourself.
To help you overcome this problem, you need to focus on key aspects of trust. The first is to have faith in your accomplishments. If you pass off your accomplishments as not being that important, when you need to rely on them, they won’t be there for you. That is sure to interrupt the process of trusting yourself.
You also need to trust your instincts. You won’t always be right, but you will be more often than not. An instinct is something you feel strongly about and does not come only from experiences. They come from something internal that no one can truly explain. It’s part of that inner voice that is telling you what to do. You need only listen. How many times have you said to yourself that you should have listened to your instincts?
You should rely on other people. If you open yourself up to letting others into your life, you will find that you become more trusting of yourself. Whether you like it or not, you need other people. You can’t know everything there is to know about every subject. Use the strengths of others to supplement what you know. It will take the burden away from you to do everything. That will help open the possibilities to put trust in yourself.
Try to filter out negative information. You get bombarded with this throughout your life. It occurs every day in the news, at work, and in many cases, your home. The more you learn to focus on positivity in your life, the easier it will be to trust yourself. A good first step towards this goal is to avoid negative people. They work hard to try to bring you down.
Trusting yourself sometimes requires a leap of faith. Take some chances. While you want to be smart regarding the risks of your choices, you don’t want to overanalyze every decision you make. If you do, you will never make any decisions, and you will stagnate. It’s true that not everything will work out the way you plan. But you will never know unless you try. The good news is when you are ready to try, many of your decisions will work for you.